Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Being Authentic and Parenting From a Distance

Not sure I should be writing this right now.  I am totally overwhelmed with life, this process, and just everything adoption requires of you.  I will start with how the day went yesterday.  We had everything gathered together except for one thing.  After many, many phone calls, we finally got a hold of the psychologist that did our psych evaluation and he said we could come pick up our letter. So I get in the car and head to OKC to pick up the letter and get everything authenticated.  I was so excited to have everything ready and be able to send to the Haitian Embassy.  I go to the Capital to the Secretary of State offices.  I was a little intimidated by the process already.  I start handing the guy our papers.  The first two or three..fine.  Then he says this one won't work, this one either.  WHAT?  I remain calm on the outside and let him finish.  In the end, he authenticated 9 of the 15.  Basically, we have to redo 6 of our documents.  That may not sound like a big deal, but it is.  I called Rob and start to cry.  He let me go so I could compose myself and we can devise a plan.  Rob, being the task oriented person he is, springs into action.  By the end of the day, we had three of the documents ready to be notarized again.  This morning we got the rest done.  Everything is ready to go back to be authenticated tomorrow.  Rob will be taking it back up.  So relieved but man am I drained.  Our goals is still to be able to send everything to Haiti by May 2.  There will be a Chances 4 Children representative that is going to Haiti that day and will take our dossier and hand deliver it to the lawyer.  Please pray that we can meet this goal and be that much closer to having Jimmy home.

So, after the stressful day, we get to skype with Jimmy.  A great ending to a bad day...well not exactly.  Unfortunately, our sweet boy is having some trouble dealing with this whole thing.  He has not told any of his friends at CHCH, and Hunter and Jillian feel like keeping this "secret" is starting to weigh on him.  He has been disobedient to Hunter and Jillian and short with the little kids.  Nothing out of control, but just out of the norm for him.  We are so blessed to have Hunter and Jillian there.  They took him aside and discussed the situation.  He was not surprised with their comments and said he felt bad.  They suggested he tell his friends.  He asked that they help him by telling everyone at devo on Thursday.  When we talked to him that evening, we reiterated that no matter how he is feeling he still has to act appropriately, etc. etc.  He looked so sad.  I know he is dealing with so much.  I can't imagine what is going on in his head.  I ache to be able to bring him home and hug him and try to understand.  Please pray for Jimmy.  Pray that everything goes well Thursday evening and that his friends react in a supportive way.  Pray for Hunter and Jillian.  They have the enormous task to parent sixty children and give all of them the love and support they need.  We did end the conversation on a good note.  Rylan and Kyndal came in and said hello.  Kyndal asked if he liked Justin Bieber.  Jillian said they all have Bieber fever.  :)  We told him we loved him and would talk again soon.  He said goodnight with a smile. 

The process is so delicate.  Your foundation is always moving and you have to keep up while juggling all of it plus normal life.  That is hard enough but throw a teenager in the mix with all of his emotions and feelings and this momma is drowning today.  I don't want to sound dramatic or "poor me".  I just want you to know what is going on so you can pray for us and this journey.  God is good all the time!

One last thing, our bbq dinner is a week from Saturday.  We will stop selling tickets after this weekend.  If you live close enough, please come.  If you don't please pray for it to be a success.  The expenses have been piling up and we could really use a boost in the adoption fund.  We also pray that it will be a blessing to everyone who comes.  There will be yummy food, good entertainment, and great company.  We have some awesome things for the silent auction you don't want to miss.  Get your cowboy duds on and join the fun! Saturday, April 30  5-8 pm   Central Church of Christ.

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